BTW, it’s ironic that her notion of an above average accomplishment is when a feminist succeeds in doing what is average for a man. Backpacking through Asia or getting a promotion is pretty average among males. So Amy is one of those feminists who is measuring herself by men. How many men measure themselves by women…much less by feminists?
Let’s contrast the role she assigns herself with the role nature assigns her. If naturalistic evolution is true, then an accomplished woman is about on the same plane as an accomplished orangutan or chimpanzee. What self-respecting great ape wants to be an average orangutan when you can be get promoted from a beta orangutan to an alpha orangutan?
Still, in the great scheme of things, does it really matter where you were on the pecking order of great ape society? Is having “backpacked through Asia” on your tombstone a more impressive epitaph than “loving wife and mother”? Who are you trying to impress? And if your goal in life is to impress others, then your sense of self-worth depends on the importance (or lack thereof) that other humans assign to you.
What’s so great about being extraordinary, anyway? Do geniuses lead happier lives?
What if “average” means being what God made you to be. Is that humiliating? Or should that be fulfilling?
But also because my one experience with wading unwittingly into the “Mommy Wars” taught me something. It taught me that our broken, confused society has convinced many stay-at-home moms that they need to justify or apologize for their choice to opt out of the hallowed ”job force” in favor of full-time mothering.
But they don’t.
You don’t. You really, really don’t.
If you read the comments under that ridiculous article, you’ll see women expressing outrage (understandably), but also offering explanations as to why they decided not to outsource their mom-duties. It pained me to see this. You’re raising your kids, it’s as simple as that. You shouldn’t have to give a reason, anymore than you should have to give your reasoning for drinking water or walking on two legs.
I think motherhood should be promoted, and the institution of the family should be defended, but you do an excellent job of that simply by being moms.
The disrespect for [stay at home moms] stems from ignorance. The only cure for ignorance is truth, and there are two ways to administer a dose of it: you can say it, or you can demonstrate it.
All I do with this blog is say it. As moms – out in the world, against the odds, against the grain, giving of yourself, dedicating your lives to you children — you are demonstrating it. You are living it.
Lastly, Christopher Hitchens understands this, much to the disbelief of his feminist interviewer: